A man who recently got divorced shares 10 important marriage tips he wished he had known earlier. Although he’s no relationship expert, his experience gives him a unique perspective.
Here are 10 marriage tips he says can help couples maintain a healthy and loving relationship:
1. Never stop courting and dating your spouse.
Don’t take them for granted and always remember that they chose you. Keep the romance alive by continuously showing your love and appreciation for them.
2. Protect your own heart and guard it with the same vigilance you have for your spouse’s heart.
Keep a special place in your heart just for your spouse and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.
3. Fall in love with your spouse over and over again. People constantly change, and you have to re-choose each other every day. Always fight to win your spouse’s love, just as you did when you were courting them.
4. Focus on the best qualities of your spouse and what you love about them. What you focus on will expand.
If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. But if you focus on what you love, you’ll be consumed by love.
5. Don’t try to change or fix your spouse. Love them for who they are, and if they change, love what they become, whether it’s what you wanted or not.
6. Take accountability for your own emotions. It’s not your spouse’s job to make you happy or sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that, your joy will spill over into your relationship.
7. Never blame your spouse for your emotions.
If you get frustrated or angry at them, it’s only because it’s triggering something inside of you. Take the time to look within and understand what it is that needs to be healed.
8. Allow your spouse to just be. When they’re upset or sad, don’t try to fix it. Hold them and let them know it’s okay. Listen to what they’re saying behind the words and emotion.
9. Be silly and laugh with your spouse. Laughter makes everything else easier.
10. Learn your spouse’s love language and the specific ways they feel important and cherished. Make it a priority every day to make them feel loved and like a queen or king.
Remember, marriage is a journey that requires continuous effort and work. By following these tips, couples can build a strong foundation of love and respect that can withstand the test of time.