When a woman in her late forties chose to adopt a kid, she had no idea what a lovely and gratifying experience she was about to embark on. Unfortunately, sharing her joys as a mother with the rest of the world brought with it some unpleasant discoveries.
People may be compelled to avoid experiencing motherhood or fatherhood due to societal constraints and archaic customs. Other times, people may be chastised for marrying or starting a family later in life.
Monsour said she explored utilizing IVF and other methods when nothing else worked during her first marriage, but her marriage ended abruptly before she could complete the process.
When she met her current husband, Clay, who shared her desire to start a family, things changed for the Ohio woman. Fortunately, the couple became pregnant immediately, but their joy was soon overshadowed by devastating news.
Children of older moms, on the other hand, are claimed to have fewer behavioral, social, and emotional issues, according to new research published in “the European journal of developmental psychology.”
Monsour experienced a miscarriage at three months, therefore the couple was unable to keep the baby. In addition, the woman stated:
“A doctor ultimately advised me to give up trying and accept the fact that I would never be a mother. It hit me like a ton of bricks, but I was determined to keep my head down and focus on my work.”
Monsour’s ten-year journey as a mother was littered with adversity. When something amazingly unexpected happened one day, she was on the verge of drowning in a cycle of trauma, anxiety, and despair.
Monsour’s life was drastically transformed when she got a surprise text message from her cousin. She was 48 years old at the time and had had several miscarriages. A part of her had also accepted the fact that motherhood was not in the cards for her.
Monsour was surprised when her cousin, who was in recovery from addiction, told her she was pregnant and asked if she wanted to adopt the baby.
The news came as a shock to her, but Monsour and Clay accepted without hesitation to take the child in. Monsour revealed the following about the life-changing experience:
“Throughout the pregnancy and birth, we were with you every step of the way. We were present for the ultrasound, and I even got to cut the chord at the hospital when she [the baby] was delivered.”
The couple arrived at the hospital with a deep desire to become parents and left with Ainsley, a baby girl in their arms. Things went well after that, and Monsour and Clay adopted Ainsley.
The first-time mother described the adoption procedure as long and difficult, involving numerous checks and visits to the social service office. She went on to say that the entire adoption procedure cost roughly $19,500.
Monsour, who works as an executive insurance director, said the long wait and everything she felt and went through to bring Ainsley into her life was well worth it, and she wouldn’t have it any other way.
Monsour is now 51 years old and the proud mother of a two-year-old daughter. She’s been documenting her maternity journey on her “The Vintage Parents” TikTok and Instagram page. She summed up her parental problems in one of her TikTok videos. The caption read, ”
“Being informed at 41 that I will never be a mother and to ‘accept my fate’ following my most recent miscarriage.”
“Me at 51 with my two-year-old,” read the caption on the second half of the same video, which showed a beautiful Monsour gently embracing her young girl.
The TikTok mom’s channel has 9.4 million likes, and her videos have received hundreds of millions of views and comments. Regrettably, the comment box is brimming with both positive and bad feedback.
Trolls have labeled Monsour “selfish” for becoming a mother at such an older age, and have told her she will most likely die before her daughter reaches adulthood. Others chastised her for adopting a child at such a young age.
Monsour occasionally publishes critical remarks on her TikTok, but she usually takes a lighthearted tone when responding to her detractors. She revealed the horrifying internet comments she’s received in a TikTok video. One of the comments read:
“You’re going to die before she gets her diploma. Selfish!”
“She’s just trying to fill a gap because she couldn’t have her own children,” another remarked. But it’s Monsour’s unwavering love for her daughter that has kept her going through it all.
Aside from the disparaging statements, the adoring mother has received good responses, admiration, and affection from the internet community. One commenter said:
“You provided a child the opportunity to live the life they deserved. There’s a way where there’s a will!”
Children of older moms have fewer behavioral, social, and emotional problems, according to “The European Journal of Developmental Psychology.”
Older women reprimand their children less verbally and physically, according to research. They’re also more patient with their kids. Monsour’s case is strange, yet beautiful.
The excited parent hopes to tell Ainsley about her adoption when she’s ready. She said she’s avoiding internet haters and focusing on parenthood and being the best mom to her daughter.
